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am i a mummy blogger?

Am I A Mummy Blogger?

 

I’m throwing this question out there, then again in a way I might be just stepping up onto my soap box. I promise I won’t be up here long. So I don’t have a pregnancy story or a birth story or something like that (well at least not yet – maybe one day I guess) so what qualifies me as a “Mummy Blogger”?.

Then again is it one of those titles that carriers with it massive negative connotations. I went off to google “Mummy Blogger” really I wanted a definition if that was possible but then got sucked into one of those internet worm holes that sucks your time and then you realise that you only had meant to read that first link but then read five and your hot drink is now cold. Anyway, I googled, I didn’t come up with anything but then again with the blog posts that popped up I’m wondering if those negative connotations go further that just a tiny opinion in this massive world. First up, there was the New Statesmen website followed by The Guardian.

So are there other bloggers out there blogging about being foster parents and do they struggle to find other foster mummy bloggers like I do? And do we count as Mummy’s in the same way (the debate of whether Mother’s Day counts for Foster Mum’s took a chunk of Mother’s Day weekend a couple of weekends ago.

Now what has prompted this……….well when Our Sidekick came to live with us in a rash moment I signed up to various newsletters etc. One being for Brit Mums – I figured that there had to be someone out there who was in a similar boat, well I’m guessing there is but for now I still feel like the odd one out – so someone, anyone please tell me I’m not the only blogging foster mum!

 

Image from here.

sixtynine: mother’s day

Today is Mother’s Day here in the UK (why is it on a different day in the US for example?). A friend of mine is celebrating her first Mother’s Day and she’s super excited about it.

Mum and Me at Race For Life

I sorted presents and a card for my Mum early last week so I was all organised (Especially as I’ll have three mums to organise for this year). But before that I had lunch with my friend B, we were talking about whether anything would happen at church for Mother’s Day (aka Mothering Sunday), in the past there’s been a tub of Celebrations or something similar handed out by the kids to all the ladies in the church whether they are mums or not.

In this particular conversation it diverted to how it can be difficult and rally hard for those ladies who aren’t mothers for whatever reason when Mother’s Day comes around. It can also be difficult for sons and daughters who have lost their mothers (or in my case a Granddaughter who lost her Grandma).

Creating something fab. Hanging with my Mum.

Then I got to think about it yesterday afternoon while working on the blanket for Chris’s Auntie’s housemate with my Mum. What about foster mothers? Okay so in some cases (like mine) they didn’t do the biological mum bit first so does that make them/me any less of a mother?

Then I got thinking back to those ladies who aren’t mothers. Within my friendship group there are mothers with one child, mothered with two or more children but there are also ladies who aren’t mothers but these have all influences and inspired me and cared for me on some occasions like my mum would for me. There are some of these ladies that I’m closer to and refer to as my “second mothers”. So what can I do to celebrate the amazing inspiring women that they are on a day that is angled at mothers. Well that’s the big thought ticking round my brain…..

How do you celebrate Mother’s Day? How are you celebrating with your mother or your children?

sixtysix: how do i ever form full thoughts…

Ever have those thoughts that if dwelt on enough they might multiple into fully fledged posts but you’re not really sure where to go with them – I think that’s my case and so hence this post – they are like bite size little chunks of wondering.

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#today

Even between a bunch of things happening including the new knitting club and a meeting for the HowMad performance I managed to fit in catching up on reading some blogs. I have the worst habit of sometimes skim reading the post to try and take it and process it. Except sometimes that means that I miss the point or I focus on one point but not the rest of the blog.

Do you get comments that either don’t properly relate to your post, or relate a tiny bit but then go off on a tangent?

I try to be glad either way because it’s a comment from somewhere outside of my family!

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I get it’s nice to have proper edited and created pictures and things like that but is your life really that perfect? What happens on your bad day? Do you put on a cheesy smile and hope no one will notice that the laundry has exploded over the kitchen/utility room floor or the sink won’t drain because of the number of plates stacked in it. Then again I throw on my jeans again because it’s too much effort to plan an outfit (probably explains *certain* things).

Some blogs don’t seem genuine – I’m not going to point a finger at specific ones as that would be mean but wanted to put that thought out there – what do you think? Are some blogs out there a bit disingenuous?


Yesterday evening it was parents evening, we’re off to see various subject teachers about different things. I think Our Sidekick said there were four appointments – that’s about 4 less than expected but it’ll work – who knows some teacher might have spare appointments or something. I’ve got the feeling that they are selected teachers (like picking the ones that you know have good things to say about you!)

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Our Sidekick and me were hanging out and we tried to learn the cup song that Anna Kendrick sings at her audition in Pitch Perfect (me and JD love this film!)

sixtythree: this weekend i…

Joining with Sar from [Life of Love] and Syndal from Synfully Delicious.

This Weekend I… grabbed lunch with my friend B. We met at Jaffa and chatted about kids work and how life is in general. There were two kids playing outside the cafe and some of the older people were commenting on what they were doing and if they were causing trouble.

This weekend I…took photos of the baby blanket ready to mail it off – first it had to be shown in the flesh to two friends at church. They both thought it was amazing.

This weekend I… watched more of Drop Dead Diva – I think that my friend looks like Brooke (she plays Jane). It’s for an Ally MacBeal vibe.

This weekend I… went back to knitting. Just for one project I think – then probably back to the crochet – we’ll see! Chris made a whole comment about how I didn’t knit!

This weekend I… watched Elementary with Chris while Our Sidekick was at the youth group. We then tried to watch an episode of The Simpsons but it kept being glitchy.

fiftysix: this weekend i…

Joining with Sar from [Life of Love] and Syndal from Synfully Delicious.

This Weekend I… helped Our Sidekick make and ice a birthday cake for his mum. In a stupid way I’d left it to the really last minute but at the same time it made sure that the cake was as fresh as it could be.

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This Weekend I… gave blood. My friend came with me and we had a few giggles. We then popped into town and bought some more wool for the baby blanket. It’s getting there and is almost finished. Part of me is excited to finish it. The other part of me is a bit sad to see it go – then again it means project two can start.

This Weekend I… was supposed to go to Book Club however with so many things vying for the 12-3 slot in my Saturday something had to give. Unfortunately this week it was Book Club – we were discussing the first half of Dracula by Bram Stoker.

This Weekend I… on Sunday we had church as usual. This week we had a visiting speaker called BB Shonga from a church in Zambia. It was good fun. Following church we went for lunch at The Gordon Arms. I had meatballs. They were yummy but needed more sauce on them.

This Weekend I… technically it was today by this point I read about Goth Subculture following this post on UCB.

If you stepped into The Order of the Black Sheep church you’d find black walls, Gothic logos and a ram’s skull – this church has it roots in the heavy metal scene. John 15:19 tells us to be in the world but not of it. How far should we go to appeal to those ‘outside’ of the church? Would you go to a church like the Order of the Black Sheep – why, why not?

There’s now over 150 comments on the status but yesterday my biggest “complaint” was that people had a stereotypical view of Goths and automatically linked it with satanism which isn’t the case a lot of the time.

This Weekend I…. (again another Monday one). Me and Libs went out for dinner and then went to the cinema to see Song For Marion. It’s a lovely story albeit really sad in some places (especially one bit in the middle – I think Libs thought I was a bit mad when I whispered “call an ambulance!”).

fortynine: this weekend i…. #twi

Joining with Sar from [Life of Love] and Syndal from Synfully Delicious.

This Weekend I… hung out with some friends, Our Sidekick and my friend’s husband played lots of Minecraft on the xBox while we watched movies and did crochet sat on the sofa.

This Weekend I… spent a chunk of time doing crochet, I’ve been working on a baby blanket since Christmas – the idea being that it would be finished by the time that baby arrives – well baby is arriving imminently and I’ve not finished it – not for want of trying though. I’ve almost finished it (I’m on Square 7 out of 9 – it’s getting there!).

This is squares 1 to 4 sewn together – it’s going to be 3 x 3 in the end (possibly with a border but that’s if it needs it).

Squares 1 to 4
This Weekend I… caught up with the Uni Girlies, we met up for dinner in Milton Keynes and swapped Christmas presents (in some cases) but mainly birthday presents.

This awesome fountain is outside of the restaurant that we were going to in Plan A. In the end we went to Zizzi which was okay but the service could have been miles better and faster.

Pretty fountain.

This is one of my presents that I received. Yummy shower gel and soaps from Lush. Lush goodies are yummy, very smelly – in a good way and I don’t normally spend that amount on shower gel or shampoo so I really am grateful and can’t wait to use them! (Plus their staff are super friendly and I don’t think I’ve ever been in one of their stores and had bad service – how crazy is that!)

This Weekend I… gained an epic cold :( It started as a sore throat and then by Sunday morning I felt rubbish – thankfully I have Chris to drag me out of bed and drag me to church, by the end of the service I didn’t feel amazing but at the same time I wasn’t about to go and curl up sobbing in the corner!!

This Weekend I… welcomed back my friend who was on our first OM team at church and welcomed our new OM team – this time we have two guys and two girls which should be really cool once they get settled. One from South Korea, one from the US, one from Switzerland and then the fourth person who I didn’t really get to speak to so I’m not sure where he’s from lol.

This Weekend I… I started reading “The Friday Night Knitting Club” by Kate Jacobs. My Mum lent it to me as she thought I’d like it and so far I do! (There seems to be chatter on IMDB that there would be a movie version but it’s all old chatter – who knows maybe there might be a film version one day!)

fortyfour: pancake day

Pancake Day

At the end of last week I wrote a huge to do list – I think in total it had about 50 things on it – mainly to do with writing blog posts and getting them scheduled in the right places (I decided that if I could schedule the Sunday posts earlier in the week then I could have a “day off” from blogging and still stick with in my “blog each day for a year” challenge with MellyWho (who is awesome and could do with a comment hug so please jump over there and drop her a comment – she’d love it!).

Anyway, so I got thinking about traditions and what makes a tradition – so in true style I ran off to the OED website for a dictionary definition.

NOUN

  • [mass noun] the transmission of customs or beliefs from generation to generation, or the fact of being passed on in this way:members of different castes have by tradition been associated with specific occupations
  • [count noun] a long-established custom or belief that has been passed on from one generation to another:

So I’m pretty sure that a lot of the traditions outside of Christmas are pretty much our own inventing rather than picking one families traditions over the other. Pancake day is one that both sides of the family did but in their own ways.

If Shrove Tuesday fell in half term (which it did for part of the country but not for Bedfordshire this year) then we’d often have a cooked dinner followed by pancakes but not any particular pancakes – they were Grandma specials! She’d often make them on the Monday then stick them in the freezer and defrost them Tuesday morning or something like that. I just remember there being pancakes and then Rich and I feeling stuffed for the rest of the afternoon! If Shrove Tuesday fell during school term then we’d have pancakes for tea. Even the fillings were a treat, Grandma, would often get cherry pie filling especially. I’d have that with ice cream every time – probably increased the feeling of exploding!

Now we’ve both grown up and haven’t been to Grandma’s on a Tuesday for tea in a while but we have taken the traditions to our own groups – I’m not sure whether Rich had pancakes or not but Our Sidekick and I had the pancakes sorted.

I got in from work and we got started on the pancakes. As unimpressed as he was I got Our Sidekick to read the recipe and weigh out the ingredients while I did bits around the kitchen. We then swapped positions and I cooked the pancakes. Rather than sitting down between rounds we pretty much munched through our pancakes while the next ones cooked in the pan.

Ingredients

  • 110g/4oz plain flour
  • pinch of salt
  • 2 eggs
  • 200ml/7fl oz milk mixed with 75ml/3fl oz water
  1. Sift the flour and the salt.
  2. Make a well in the middle and crack the eggs in there. Whisk in the eggs. It’ll go a bit doughy and might stick to your whisk.
  3. Add the milk/water mix and stir in all the flour.
  4. Add a little bit of oil or butter to your hot pan. Grab a ladel and put some of your mixture into the pan. The first pancake always tends to be a bit dodgy – I’m not sure why but there is some logic to it or so I’m told!
  5. When the mixture has “set” and gone a golden sort of colour flick the pancake over and finish side two. Serve with your choice of filling. My favourite is chocolate buttons, banana and vanilla ice cream or cherry pie filling and ice cream.

twentyone: snow day!!!

Yesterday evening at about 8:30 after the united church service finished, Our Sidekick kept praying to God that there would be a snow day – every time someone mentioned school he was praying really hard that school would be cancelled for a snow day. Well at about 8:45 the school updated their website. The 21st January 2013 would be a snow day at his school.

Originally he was going to stay home at Chris didn’t have work – then between then and going to work this morning, Chris got a message saying that one of his volunteers couldn’t be there today as her kids schools were closed too.

I decided that Our Sidekick needed to go with one of us and given that work had been posted on the online school system and he still had his history project to work on that it made sense for him to come to work with me. Well he wasn’t a happy bunny but with a bit of encouragement with a bacon sandwich from the canteen when we got to work we set off for work.

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I snapped a couple of pictures outside of work, actually both these two came from one photo and yet they look so different. With Our Sidekick with me at work today I had to make sure that I took a proper lunch break – or at least long enough to get a sandwich or something to give to him so that he didn’t keel over or get grumpy through lack of food. I was kind of reluctant to go to the shop given the level of snow and slush outside but at the same time the canteen food is just getting worse – either through lack of choice or lack of flavour.

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I’d ordered these Crochet Hooks from Curtzy via Amazon, and they arrived today. I got very excited and did a little dance – I think Our Sidekick still thinks I’m nuts but I guess part of it is encouraging him to accept his crazy too – unlike me when I was his age and was determined to surpress my crazy in the hope that I’d fit in a bit better – and look how happy that didn’t make me. I’ll stick with showing off my crazy and crocheting until my hands feel like they might drop off.

I finished helping Our Sidekick with his homework before I opened my crochet hooks properly. I’m beginning to think that I should do the assignments as well – Our Sidekick could hand it in and see if the teacher noticed that they’d gained an extra student in the class lol – oh and the fact that I’m 26 and a degree level student lol.

My new crochet hooks arrived. Christmas voucher well spent. Thank you @thecgbj (@cgbj)

I was crocheting away at my granny square that is part of a baby blanket for a friend and I went to remove the hook and the handle was still in my hand but the hook was still in the stitches. I messaged the company and then hunted for my superglue, after all I’d just posted a picture on Instagram about how awesome the hooks were which had also posted to Facebook, Twitter and Flickr. Hopefully someone will come back to me – I don’t mind hanging onto the hooks and fixing them but I’d at least like a new 4mm hook, or if they are being generous a refund or a case for my hooks would be good. I currently have a pencil case to hold my hooks in but I tend to gain pens in them too.

eighteen: my friday

Today was one of those days that I was so grateful for those around me. I had a horrible day yesterday and was just emotionally shattered this morning. Going to work was one of those “do I have to?” moments but actually once I got to work and got settled at my desk I was on a mission.

I had started a massive to do list yesterday to keep track of the ongoing outstanding bits I needed to do. About 10am it started to snow although it was tiny flakes that didn’t seem to make a lot of difference. But it became a joke about looking over to the window to see what was going especially as it involved looking at my managers desk. I had a chat with my manager which was good because it needed to happen kind of urgently.

By 1pm the canteen had decided to close and the staff in reception had switched to a skeleton staff for the rest of the day. We were let out early – I came home and Our Sidekick and me started on Italian homework and his History project. The history project isn’t going to be a one night assignment and is going to take a bunch of work – it means that he’s got history homework pretty much every day until its done. We’ve been learning about the Whitechapel Murders – also known as the Jack The Ripper murders. I want to include a psychological profile but that might be a bit over kill for Our Sidekick’s working level.

This evening I had dinner with two friends and then a third friend joined us. It was lovely to catch up, we played a card game called Dobble and a second one called Name Dropping.

Crochet

Tomorrow we have another crochet session at The Fountain and I’m really excited. If you want to come bring a 4mm crochet hook and appear about 4pm ish.

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Joining with Sar from [Life of Love] and Syndal from Synfully Delicious.

Saturday
Eventually once everyone in our house was up the boys went to purchase new bike pedals for Our Sidekick’s bike as it had got to the point where his pedal was almost completely disintegrated. Encouraging Our Sidekick out of bed was a challenge then again I think he’d somehow managed to squeeze extra time out and so went to bed late.

While the boys were out I watched a film and a couple of episodes of Numb3rs. While Chris amd Our Sidekick were out someone knocked on the door and said they were there to collect Our Sidekick for contact – well no one told us that transport had been booked for him as I’ve dropped him off every week since we started having contact supervised. I explained that Chris was dropping him off and that we hadn’t been told about the lift. I got all comfortable again when there was a knock at the door – it was the transport person again – did we want to collect Our Sidekick or should they bring him home? Well if you’re offering and seeing as you’re booked you can collect him that would be lovely.

Chris arrived home and grabbed his shirt for work but got in a grump with me that I hadn’t done them and could I do them as he was down to his last one or he should really be putting that one in the wash. I wasn’t really sure but after some cross words (don’t worry we apologised and made up later – see life isn’t always rainbows and butterflies!) and Chris heading off to work, I gathered together all the washing and did some chores.

I tidied the kitchen and got the washing on, I caught up on some TV while sorting out wool and other bits to take with me to the crochet lesson that Mum and I were running at The Fountain. We knew we were expecting one person but we wanted to be ready if we had extra people.

Our Sidekick was dropped home with another bag of goodies (tube/box of crisps and some chocolate I think) we then headed to my Mum’s to collect her (makes more sense then running two cars when we’re going to the same place lol)

We got to The Fountain and parking once again was a challenge but we got there in the end. We got settled in with our drinks (Apple Crumble special for me and a cup of tea for Mum) just as our friend arrived (we’ll call her A) – she was our definite. I grabbed her a cup of tea as well and while I was at the counter another lady arrived (we’ll call her S). We didn’t know her personally but we knew her in a six degrees of separation kind of way. She grabbed a drink and we got started. We were working on basic granny squares as you just need chain stitches and trebles to get started – you can always learn extra stitches after. I worked with our friend A and Mum worked with our “new” friend S.

After the crochet session, Mum and I went to the local supermarket to get some bits for tea and some other bits. I came home and chilled for a bit then went back to The Fountain to collect the boys. I cooked dinner for us all while the boys fixed Our Sidekick’s bike. We then all went for a run – well in my case power walk as my ribs were hurting.

When we got home Our Sidekick cleaned out the guinea pigs cage while me and Chris gave the guinea pigs a bath – it’s really funny when the sounds of the water makes them jump and they have like a fit – their legs and arms go crazy and they splash around.

Sunday
Originally the plan had been that we’d go to visit Chris’s Aunt and housemate – unfortunately the housemate went down with the flu on Saturday so it was decided to postpone our visit.

Chris decided that while we had nothing booked in the diary (as bits had either been moved, cancelled or our apologies had been sent) we’d go out for the day.

We caught the 11.06ish train out of Bedford and headed for London. We were on a First Capital Connect service which meant that it was pretty much all stops to London. (It came down to money vs time).

We got into London around 12.15 ish. I’d spent most of the journey crocheting and chatting to the boys about the route and what we could do in London when we got there. My friend Daren asked his FB friends about how important wearing a watch or having the time on their phone was. I haven’t had a watch in a while. I used to have one with an elasticated strap – it was the one I was given to learn to tell the time when I was younger – I was still wearing it into my teens and twenties as the elasticated strap was more comfortable than a metal, plastic or leather strap. I have tried other watches and I do have a current one (although its been on loan to Our Sidekick for school days when his phone has to remain in his pocket or bag). So the problem with relying on my iPhone for the time is that when the battery runs out I feel really lost – on a normal day it’s not a problem there’s the clock on the office wall, the display on my work phone and the toolbar on my work PC.

First off we were walking from St. Pancras station towards the British Museum, we stopped on a corner to check the route and Chris realised that we were stood right outside the British Library and he thought I might like a look. Chris said to Our Sidekick that we’d have a quick look then head to the British Museum for our proper trip of the day. We went in the first exhibition which was in the Sir John Ritblat Gallery (it’s named after him as he was a major benefactor during the refurbishment of the building). There were lots of special old documents in here. There were Shakespeare scripts, a notebook that belonged to Jane Austen and an original copy of Handel’s Messiah score – that was fun to read given that I was part of Messiah from Scratch in 2011 and 2012. While in the library I got a text message from a work colleague with some awesome news that we’ve been waiting for and so I did a little dance right in the middle of the library lol. We decided we needed to move off but it’s definitely somewhere to visit it in the future – I imagine I could probably spend all day in there! There were so many documents to look at – there’s a whole collection of folios too – I imagine that if you want to handle them then you’d need special permission and all that sort of thing but I could just look at them from a distance lol.

We grabbed some lunch on the way between the library and the museum, I had a BLT sandwich, Our Sidekick had a Swedish Meatball Wrap which smelt lovely but apparently was spicy even for him which is virtually unheard of from Our Sidekick. Chris had a salad as it was one of the few things without gluten in. (Is it always going to be this hard to find placed that make gluten free meals!?!)

The British Museum was interesting but by this point I was really warm having been outside and then in humidity controlled rooms. There were lots of people so everything took twice as much time to see it and then you felt like you had to dodge out like five people’s way. We did get to see the Rosetta Stone which was really interesting especially for someone like me who loved learning about Ancient Egypt and the Pyramids however it was one of the busiest exhibits so there were like twenty people all trying to see the one exhibit which isn’t as big as I imagined it to be.

After the British Museum we went to North Greenwich to go on the Emirates Air Line cable car across the Thames. It was good fun although Our Sidekick was a bit grumpy. I borrowed Chris’s phone and snapped a bunch of pictures of what I could see.

The O2 from The Emirate Air Line

Just hanging on the Air Line

We caught the DLR to Bank then caught the tube to Tottenham Court Road. We then ended to Soho to grab tea at Wok to Walk. First of all we went to Snog which is just across the road. It sells frozen yoghurt will many different flavours – I had a Natural Classic size with Oreo cookies on top. When we were in Amsterdam we ended up eating at Wok to Walk quite a few times as it was relatively cheap in comparison and was yummy and filling. Amsterdam beats London. London – lack of seating. There were seven people around the main table that was supposed to sit like 12 or 14 and we were snug. Amsterdam on the other hand had two or three larger tables. There’s a second one in London so we might have to try that one next time. The sweet and sour sauce on mine was burning the back off my throat and it had no “fire woks” next to them so it wasn’t supposed to be spicy.

Following dinner we headed back to Piccadilly Circus to catch the tube back to St Pancras. We found an awesome graphic novel shop called Gulp. Chris got annoyed at me for taking too long. Well me and books what do you expect. They had shelves of Zines but most of them had swearing – I did find one that looked interesting and didn’t seem to have swearing so hopefully it’s okay.

On our way through the Trocadero, I found this amazing Japanese shop but the boys weren’t appreciating my geeky moment (some manga is dodgy and our site blocker thing seems to automatically pick up those bits so I can’t link but if you go to the Trocadero site there is a link – the store is called TokyoToys.

We got back to St Pancras and had a whistle stop visit to Platform 9 3/4s, Our Sidekick was getting tired so he didn’t really want to be there, we popped to Paperchase on our way through St. Pancras. Chris said we needed to go and I said I’d pay and catch up with them at the barrier. Turns out Chris had read the sign for the 1907 train which only went as far as Luton so although I sprinted from Paperchase to about three stores from the FFC barrier which in the end I didn’t need to have done as we needed the 1920 service out of London. It was a good day but would have been better if Our Sidekick hadn’t been in such a strop.

Oh I didn’t tell you all about epically breaking my nail, it bleeding everywhere and me holding a tissue to my finger until we got to North Greenwich and found a pharmacy or shop that would sell plasters. Thank goodness for the pharmacy on the peninsula.